Do you notice how often we say things like...
Sometimes we can go over and over the negative thoughts, thinking that that will bring abut the positive solution. But his is a total waste of time...what you need to so it change your thinking to the positive.
So this week put your attention on what you DO want...focus on it with as much as your thought energy as possible and see what a difference it can start to make in your life.
Do you realise how much time you spend in any moment thinking about the past, (maybe what we should or shouldn't have done) or in the future (worrying or thinking about what may happen)...and how little we spend in the present moment.
We can eat our lunch on the go...giving the food we eat hardly any thought at all. Never really fully experiencing the fullness of the flavour.
We rush from person to person, our heads full of what we need to do next, that we never fully engage with them. Which is a shame, because it has been said that the deepest need of most people is simply to be heard.
So how do we better engage with others? Or get to really taste and enjoy the food we are eating? Or really enjoy life...
The answer is to become more aware of living in the present moment. We do, after all, only have a small window of opportunity to create our lives...and that moment is now. We cannot change the past, and we have limited ability to influence the future. The only time we can have any influence over is now...
Most of us have a life that looks great on paper. To the outside world we are successful and prosperous because we tick all the boxes. There is, however, a fundamental difference between success and happiness. Just because we may look successful, doesn't mean we are happy...
Brene Brown said in her TED talk about the Power of Vulnerability, that, "We live in a vulnerable world. And one of the ways we deal with it is we numb vulnerability." and it is as a result of that numbing of emotion that, "we are the most in-debt, obese, addicted and medicated adult cohort in US history"
And this isn't just the case in the United States...but in many other countries around the world.
In order to find kindness and compassion for others, we need to find it within ourselves by treating ourselves kindly. And yet our inner chatter is often harsher than we would talk to anyone else.
To strengthen your inner resilience to dealing with the vulnerable and ever changing world in which you live, it is a good idea to look at your own levels of happiness in each area of your life.