​It is not unusual for many people to have a strong desire to achieve something, but then live a life totally contrary to their desire. 

It is like they are seeing what they want on the other side of gate and are working hard to find the key that will unlock it.  Yet only a small part of the time do they truly believe they will actually find the key...

What we say both out loud and to ourselves ALL the time is vital.  We just can't bring about what we want when we only have a strong belief 10% of the time...we must make sure ALL our language is in alignment with what we want.

Change is such a big thing.  We find it happening more and more in our lives and in our businesses.  And yet it isn't always easy to deal with. Whether we like it or not, those who aren't good at dealing with change will gradually be left behind.

People often think that they haven't the confidence to change, or won't change until they have the confidence to do so.  What they don't realise is that it is the change that gives you confidence.

We may feel anxious about change...and avoid it by hiding our head in the sand.  We can numb our emotions to change by becoming addicted with things that avoid the issue, like substances, gambling, buying things to make us happy, watching too much television...actually there are so many different sorts of avoidance measures.  When we do this our lives shrink because our defences have built up a mechanism to avoid what we feel anxious about.

The way to counteract our negative feelings about change is to start by developing healthy thinking habits.  Coaching can help with this. One of the things you can learn to do is to.stop criticising yourself as it does nothing except affect your energy and confidence.  Rather than sizing ourselves up against others and wonder what they think of us...  What we should think instead is...


"What you think of me is none of my business".