I was around nineteen or twenty when I was handed my first self help book. At the time I didn't even realise books like this existed!!! For the previous four or five years I had struggled with coming to terms with the death of my dad two weeks after my fifteenth birthday. My confidence and self esteem was on the floor. These books were just what I needed and I soon began devouring book after book.
Personal development books helped me to increase my self esteem and confidence and I noticed a gradual change in the way I felt about myself. My addiction to personal development grabbed hold of me from then on.
Within a year or so I noticed that the way I felt about life and myself seemed to plateau. The books seemed to have stopped making me feel any better...so I stopped reading (for a while at least).
Looking back on my journey I understand how these books had an immediate impact on my incredibly low self esteem. I can also understand why they stopped taking effect after a while.
What happened was that my brain was soaking up knowledge like a sponge...but there it stayed...in my brain. I knew what to do. I knew how I was supposed to feel. Yet I didn't change.
Years later when I began my intensive personal development journey with coaches, tutors and mentors, I had a revelation. Everything I had learnt was held intellectually only...I wasn't living most of it. And if I wasn't living it, how on earth could it make a difference to my life?
Having a tutor and mentor made a massive difference in my life. I learnt how to let go of anger, resentment, fear, frustration. I could start to forgive. I could really start to grow and fall in love with life again.
I have seen this change in my coaching clients too. Many come to me having read many personal development books over the years. It only seems to take a handful of sessions before I am asked how on earth coaching is creating such a positive change in their lives.
My answer is...you are not just knowing the information, but actually living it. And that makes all the difference.