You may be one of those few and far between people that naturally have a wonderfully supportive and loving internal dialogue. Or you could be like most of us and struggle to keep that negative inner critic at bay.
Years ago I lived in ignorance that I could have conscious control over my inner critic. That I could replace that stream of negativity, with supportive and nourishing self talk. At that time when a negative thought entered my head I let it run and run...sometimes allowing it to became a bit of a mental monster.
I found I could pick holes in myself for the smallest of things. I could berate myself for not doing well enough, for not saying the right thing at he right moment. I was over critical and at times out of control.
Does this sound like you?
If you had a young dog and were overly critical and judgemental of it all the time, it would start feeling fearful. It would hold back from wanting to do something for fear of getting it wrong. YOU are no different.
You create change in yourself when you learn that change happens through love NOT fear.
Instead of berating yourself, tell yourself how wonderful you are.